Monday, March 5, 2018

Discovering The Source of Anxiety


























Anxiety is most definitely something we all find ourselves dealing with to some degree, but when the anxiousness starts to become overwhelming, gradually growing to the point where your every thought turns into a worry and your life is being taken over by constant fear and doubt, how do you take care of the situation? How do you take care of yourself? How can you make a change? Truth is, those are still things that I'm still figuring out. 






































"It seems like there are so many things I need to correct in my life, so many things I need to improve on, that I'm just not sure where I need to start first."


Since the launch of When The Wild Things Grow back in November, I've made an effort to speak out about a topic I'm incredibly passionate about, mental health. More specifically, I've made an effort to speak out on anxiety, an issue I find myself dealing with quite frequently throughout my daily life and as of late, the past month or so, I've been dealing with some issues that I've considered to be worse than the usual.

Last night I grabbed my old journal that I purchased back in August of last year. I hadn't journaled in a while, with the way I've been feeling, I haven't really had the energy for it. I began flipping through some of the older entries, admiring all of the beautiful pages I had created in the beginning, but as I continued to glance through, the pages became more sporadic. Some were left unfinished, with blank pages in between, and some were almost blank with no decoration, just long paragraphs in the form of frustrated scribbles...But there was one, in particular, that caught my attention. 

This entry was from late October, a few weeks after my twenty-first birthday. The first page was covered in a piece of ripped scrapbook paper, with a sticker stuck down in the middle of it that read "Life is fragile, handle it with prayer." and on the other side, was a full page I had written about how terrible I was feeling about myself in the previous weeks. I described how I felt lost in my newly found adulthood, I described how I felt like I hadn't found my purpose in this world and spoke about how I was beginning to become doubtful that I had any real reason for being on this planet, to begin with. Not only did I describe my emotions and all of the fears I had inside me at the time, I also described exactly how I've been feeling this year, down to every little detail.

As I sat back in my desk chair silently pondering what I had read, the words suddenly managed to hit me like a stiff punch to the gut. "Have I made no changes in my life? No real improvements from the time I wrote this?" I thought to myself. "Surely I've had to, right?" The more I thought about it, the more I realized I hadn't made much of an effort to change how I'd been feeling, somehow I got stuck in this bubble of insecurity and self-pity with seemingly no way out and after thinking about my situation for roughly twenty minutes straight, I had finally came to the conclusion of why that was.

What seems to be causing the most anxiety for me at this stage in my life has been two things, my "Atychiphobia" which is much more commonly known as the fear of failure and then, the very idea of growing up and becoming an adult. The two, unfortunately, go hand in hand. I've been so afraid of adulthood because, for the majority of my life, I've deemed myself incapable of almost everything and anything. Confidence has never come easily for me, between learning disabilities and lack of self-esteem, I've found myself completely unwilling to try new things, terrified of receiving confirmation of what I already feel is true, "I just can't do it." I absolutely hate to admit that I do this, I hate even more to admit the fact that what once was a little self-esteem issue, has now become a terrible problem in my adult life.

Truth is, I'm somewhat relieved to have discovered the source of where all this anxiety has been coming from, but at the same time, it's going to lead to the very stressful first step of figuring out what I need to be doing about it. I feel so overwhelmed at this point, it seems like there are so many things I need to correct in my life, so many things I need to improve on, that I'm just not sure where I need to start first.





















































If you would have told me, that roughly two weeks after writing the above, I would be feeling the happiest I've ever been, I'd have thought you were crazy. But, fortunately, it's true! Sometimes it's easy to forget, that so much can change in such a short amount of time. I've spoken about this throughout social media in the past, but I have been working for a cleaning company as my day job and since yesterday, my cleaning-partner and I finished up working at a very large office building that was beginning to be a little too much for us to handle, and were able to replace our time there with a much smaller building accompanied by a slight increase in pay.

With that blessing, I'm also in the process of obtaining the first cleaning job that I will be doing solo, two nights a week. I'll miss having my cleaning-partner during those nights, but I feel this is a solid step in the right direction for me, beginning to feel more like an actual adult and with feeling a little more secure finically, I'll be able to put my focus on one of my biggest goals this year, learning to drive...More on that in the future!

If you were able to relate to the problems I had been dealing with in some way, be sure to take a moment to share this article with some other women who may be in need of some encouragement! Also, feel free to follow me on social media to stay up to date on future blog posts. I absolutely love chatting and making new friends, so don't be afraid to reach out! What has been your biggest source of anxiety?

YOU MAY ALSO LIKE THIS ARTICLE ON: 10 Things That Calm My Anxiety



Sunday, February 25, 2018

6 Empowering Quotes For Single Women




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I think Valentine's Day can be somewhat of a difficult holiday for us single gals to get through. Even if we've come to complete terms with not being involved with someone, we still can't help but feel a little left out sometimes. But since the day has come and gone, I thought this would be the perfect time to share with you some of my favorite, mood-boosting, inspirational quotes for single women!

Each quote tells a different story, teaches us a different lesson, and I hope that within at least one of these, you'll find something that will help you through something you might be dealing with. Whether that be realizing your true worth or acknowledging that no relationship, is better than the wrong one. Without further ado, let's dive on in! 

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1. “Hope for love, pray for love, wish for love, dream for love…But don’t put your life on hold waiting for love.” - Mandy Hale
This was the first quote to really catch my eye when I went in search of some inspiring words to share with you all and it's remained my favorite throughout this entire list. Mandy Hale shared such an important message with us in this. I think it's very easy for the idea of finding love to become our main focus in life, but it's important we take the time to stop and smell the roses! This is our time to focus on ourselves and live life the way we desire! I mean, seriously, we won't be single forever, girls! We should enjoy this time while we still can.


2. “Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.” - Coco Chanel
I think almost every young woman has had a moment of weakness, where we start to set aside who we really are in order to impress someone else. But the truth is, nothing is worth that sacrifice, not even a relationship. If you're interested in someone who can't appreciate the real you, then politely show them to the door because they simply do not belong in your life, but there is most definitely someone out there who will absolutely love the real you, so embrace who you are now, and practice allowing that true beauty to shine through!


3. "Being single is better than being in the wrong relationship." - unknown 
I had to learn this one the hard way. After the end of my first real relationship, I decided to give dating another shot not long after, but looking back on it, I should have waited. The incredibly short-lived relationship I became apart of caused me so much frustration and insecurity...But from that experience, I was taught the lesson of not being so quick to jump on the first opportunity that came my way.

If I would have waited, I would have saved myself the pain and aggravation as well as my valuable time. You see, being on your own will always be better for you than running around with someone who isn't treating you the way you deserve to be treated. Taking things slow, and waiting for the kind of person you could truly see yourself spending your time with, is incredibly important and until that man walks into your life, take time to enjoy the ride! Being single can actually be kind of fun!








































































































































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4. “Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve.” - unknown                                                           
We all know it can be pretty darn disappointing when things we once thought were going to be so wonderful for us, end up dragging us down and causing us more harm than good. That can be anything, old dreams we have that just won't work, toxic friendships, wrong opportunities, and yes, romantic relationships. But when you're smart enough to know in your heart when it's time to end things and then strong enough to actually let it go, that's how you know there's always going to be something better in store for you.


5. “She isn't the kind of girl that makes you wonder why she doesn't have someone, you just know that the kind of guy who is good enough for her is rare, and she projects the kind of strength that says she is perfectly happy to wait till he shows up.” - Stacey Ballis
The kind of woman that has been described here, is the kind of woman I find myself striving to be. There really isn't all that much I can say about this, except for that we all should be perfectly happy to wait for that day, when the man who is good enough for us, does show up. 


6. "A woman who realizes her worth is a dangerous woman." - Alicia Ramos 
You may have noticed that this particular quote was featured at the beginning of this article, and that's for a very good reason. It's very easy for us women to forget just how valuable we are in this world, recognizing our worth isn't always something that comes naturally. Sure, there are a handful of women who have no trouble seeing their value which is absolutely amazing but there are also women out there like myself, who have to put in a little extra effort to be kinder to ourselves. 

When we choose to embrace who we are and believe in ourselves while accepting that we're not perfect and working to improve with each day, confidence will undoubtedly begin to build up. When we're able to tap into our inner strength and recognize our true worth, we're capable of absolutely anything.
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If you enjoyed any of these quotes, be sure to take a moment to share this article with some other single women who may be in need of some encouragement! Also, feel free to follow me on social media to stay up to date on future blog posts. I absolutely love chatting and making new friends, so don't be afraid to reach out! What was your favorite quote on this list? 

YOU MAY ALSO LIKE THIS ARTICLE ON: Why I'm Okay With Being Single This Valentine's Day













Sunday, February 11, 2018

5 Effortless Steps To Becoming A Morning Person


























Wouldn't it be wonderful, if living the life of a morning person were something that came more easily to us all? Just imagine all that we could accomplish with having some of that extra time each day! But unfortunately, for those of us who are natural born night-owls, it's never been quite that simple, until now!


"The early bird catches the worm."

It's no secret that some of the most successful people out there are indeed morning people. Which makes a huge amount of sense, they're more willing to make the most out of their time and not waste a moment of the life they've been given. Which is pretty darn admirable. So without further ado, today I will be sharing with you five of my absolute favorite and effortless tips that have helped me to rise and shine more often! It will take some time and practice for your new habits to form, but these are definitely things that can and will have you well on your way to transitioning into that early-bird you've secretly always wanted to be!

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1. GO TO BED AT LEAST AN HOUR EARLIER  
Please allow me to start off this list by being a total captain obvious for a second...Getting the proper amount of sleep is VITAL. Not just for this, but for life in general. I mean, as much as we all would love it, we simply cannot spend our entire night up until the crack of dawn, binge-watching our favorite shows on Netflix and then expect to wake up at a decent hour to take on the day like a boss, it just ain't happening. Now obviously, I don't have a way of knowing when your head actually hits the pillow at night, but my best guess is, that since you're reading this, attempting to drift off to dreamland a little sooner than usual, couldn't hurt!


2. SET YOURSELF A NEW ROUTINE 
Setting up a proper morning routine will be very beneficial to you in the process of becoming more of a morning person. Starting your routine in the evening will help you get the proper amount of rest you need in order to make waking up bright and early seem a little less painful. I typically start my routine settling down about an hour or so before bed. I'll make an effort to turn off most electronics, brush my teeth and wash my face, then I'll sit down and find something relaxing to do such as reading my devotional, so I can allow my mind to slow its roll for the night.

Then loosely planning out some things that can help you get up and get moving is crucial. I don't know about you, but if I lump around on the couch after getting up out of bed, I just end up focusing even more on how tired I am. So, you're actually doing yourself a favor by diving into the day! You don't have to overly complicate this process, start out small by making the bed, grabbing a bite to eat, then taking a nice long shower to give yourself a boost of energy. You'll be left feeling less tired and more productive. I mean, that's a total win, right?  



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3. NO SCREENS BEFORE BED  
Don't roll your eyes at me, you know you spend hours before bed scrolling through social media until the very last minute. But trust me, if you put forth an effort to put that bad habit to an end, you're not going to regret it. I had a bit of an eye-roll moment myself when this suggestion first came to my attention. But when I stopped and really thought about it, I came to the realization that with each night I spent scrolling before bed, I had also spent hours laying wide awake after, completely unable to sleep or even relax.

I wasn't allowing myself any of the time I needed to settle down, my brain just wasn't ready to turn on sleep-mode quite yet. If you're serious about becoming a morning person, turn off those screens! Put away the phones, the tablets, and the computers and let yourself have some much-needed rest. All of those tweets from your favorite celeb's will still be there for you to catch up on tomorrow, I promise!


4. LET THE SUNSHINE IN 
When your bedroom is still dark, it's easy to convince yourself that you still have more than enough time to keep sleeping, and that's why leaving your curtains open the night before should be immediately put on your to-do list! Waking up to natural sunlight is such a blessing, I mean, think about it. Wouldn't you much rather be woken up by a fresh beam of golden sunlight instead of the completely dreadful and abrupt sound of your nearby alarm clock? I've gotten to the point now, where I start to wake up to the sunlight before my alarm is even set to go off, which is the most wonderful feeling!


5. SET YOUR ALARM CLOCK AWAY FROM YOUR BED 
When it comes to hitting that snooze button as your alarm goes off in the morning, the temptation can be real. But, the easiest solution to this problem, is to set your alarm clock away from your reach and as far away from the comfort of your own bed as possible! Yes, I totally recognize that this step may not sound very appealing, but girl, I swear it'll help. Let that sweet sound of silence be the perfect motivation to get yourself up and running! No more snoozing, for you!


BONUS TIP: TREAT YO'SELF...TO BREAKFAST!
So for those of you who have read all the way to this point, and are more than ready to take on the challenge of becoming an early-bird, this is an extra step that is super essential to your new lifestyle! Now that you'll be having more time in the morning, breakfast doesn't have to be so rushed. Instead of grabbing a cup of coffee and running out the door, take some time to treat yourself to a proper meal!

Whether your plan is to make yourself a nice stack of waffles, eggs and bacon or even something as simple as a big bowl of your most favorite cereal, planning out and putting together a nice breakfast can be a terrific way to jumpstart your entire day! It's always important to reward yourself for a job well done and we all need that perfect amount of fuel for our bodies so that we can go on to get as much accomplished as possible!

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There you have it, lovelies! After following these oh-so-simple steps, you'll be well on your way to transitioning into a morning person! Life is so short and unbelievably precious. It's time we embrace those early hours and make the most out of every second we have here on this earth!

Don't forget to reach out and get in touch with me on social media! I would absolutely love to know which one of these steps you think will help you out the most! 



Sunday, February 4, 2018

Why I'm Okay With Being Single This Valentine's Day

February typically isn't a month that we single gals eagerly look forward to. For me personally, it's almost always been a month that I would deeply dread as all of the heart-shaped candies, roses, and overpriced teddy bears would steadily come out to make their annual appearances. But this year, I'm choosing to change my generally bad attitude towards this holiday and look at Valentine's Day with a whole new perspective.


"Just because I'm not linked to someone romantically at this time, doesn't mean that there isn't love in my life."


Valentine's Day has never been my thing, while the idea of a gushy holiday full of romantic gestures may sound wonderful for those in a relationship, it's not so great for those of us who aren't. I'll be honest here, I've definitely done my fair share of eye-rolling at those couples who can't seem to get enough of proclaiming the love they have for their significant others throughout the day on social media, documenting every little moment as they celebrate.

Now I totally recognize that I'm coming off as incredibly bitter at this time, but I promise you, I've got my mind set on having a wonderful Valentine's Day this year, despite not being involved in a relationship, because, for the first time in my life, I am completely cool and so happy with being single...So allow me to explain why I'm more than okay with spending this one alone, and why I'm  going to have the best Valentine's Day ever.


1. I'M STILL GOING TO CELEBRATE
I've never properly celebrated this holiday before, I've never had the chance due to feeling incredibly excluded from Valentines Day festivities for obvious reasons, but this one is going to be different because I'll be celebrating in my own way. I'm just so over the whole "I hate Valentines Day" thing at this point, I'm only making myself more miserable by dwelling on it, so for once I'll embrace what's to come.

Truth be told I'm still not entirely sure how I'll be celebrating the day, but I do have a few ideas in mind, even if it's something as simple as grabbing take-out from my favorite restaurant and binge-watching all of the Spider-Man movies made. (Andrew Garfield films very much excluded) Seriously, it's time I allow myself to have a little fun, no relationship? No problem! I'm attempting to love myself, so I'll celebrate with just me! 

2. I'M ALREADY COMMITTED TO MY WORK 
I know, I know. It may sound rather clichรฉ since I feel like almost every single gal out there uses her career as an excuse for being single, but at this particular moment in time, it's true. I am fully committed to my work, and I'm not just talking about my boring ole' day job. I'm talking about my writing, my actual dream, the most important thing to me outside of my family.

Between working hard, chasing all of my dreams of becoming a full-time blogger, freelance writer, and author, along with working the job I am now in order to somewhat support myself financially, this stage of my life has been dedicated to figuring out how to make those goals and aspirations of mine actually happen. Not to mention, I'm still trying to learn more about who I am as a person through my work and try to find out what it is I want out of life.

Unless someone undeniably special comes waltzing into my life in the very near future, I don't think that I would have the time for a serious relationship, and I'm completely fine with having this time for me and what I want to do, and no, that's not selfish...We all need a little time for ourselves before we go off and commit to someone else. 










































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3. MY LIFE IS SO FULL OF LOVE  
You know, just because I'm not linked to someone romantically at this time, doesn't mean that there isn't love in my life. In fact, I think love will be the one thing I'll always have no matter what. I'm lucky enough to have a whole family that cares about me, from my parents and my brother to my little dog, Posey, who loves me so much that I can't step out of the house for 5 minutes without her acting like I've been gone for an entire year.

Then my incredibly loving mother always thinks of me during this holiday, she puts together a card and some goodies that never fail to make me go all misty-eyed. Being the amazing person that she is, she would never want me to feel excluded, and she sets an excellent example that this particular holiday doesn't need to be about only couples and romance, but it should overall share the message of showing your loved ones that you care. 


4. I WON'T BE SINGLE FOREVER
While I've come to the conclusion that I'd be perfectly fine by myself if God decided that was the way it should be, I don't think I'll stay single foreverI always say that I'm not interested in dating right now, and that's the honest truth. But I also won't be silly and avoid someone who is undeniably my soulmate, when someone special does come into my life, I have to accept that opportunity. 

But I honestly haven't the slightest clue how long I'll be celebrating this day without a man in my life, it could be years or I could have someone with me for the next one, there's just no way of knowing for sure. But as of right now, it's just me, and there's no reason why I can't enjoy the occasion with friends and family instead! 


5. THERE'S NO PRESSURE 
I'm not someone who is very good under pressure, if anything I totally buckle, and when it comes to buying gifts for someone, it majorly stresses me out. It's horrifying. With the exception of close family members, I never, ever know what to get for anyone, and will most likely panic at the thought of getting a gift that they wouldn't completely dislike or already have bought for themselves.

Then, adding in the element of having to buy something spectacular for your significant other, adds a whole other level of stress. I'm definitely not one of those people who believe it's only the woman that should get something for Valentine's Day, there are some amazing men out there that deserve presents, too! But I'm horrible at gift giving, another year of feeling no pressure is something I'll very much appreciate while it lasts.

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This year I'm making an effort to choose happiness, a good attitude can open up a world of opportunity and I'm no longer interested in sitting around like a grouch, grumbling about all of the couples out there posting about what their significant others did for them on social media. Instead, I'll be minding my own business, allowing everyone to have their moment while I enjoy the holiday my own way. Treating myself to a nice takeout meal, and spending some quality time with my wonderful family...Now, what will you do to celebrate?













Wednesday, January 31, 2018

The Sunshine Blogger Award

Being the total newbie writer that I am now, you can imagine how incredibly touched, surprised and oh-so flattered I was when I had discovered that a wonderful friend of mine on Twitter, @StephGearyUK, had included me in her nominees for the Sunshine Blogger Award. Since then, there have been many more amazing and talented people out there who have nominated me for the award as well, and I'm so humbled to participate in this!
"The Sunshine Blogger Award"

I've been seeing this award floating around on social media, more specifically Twitter, for a couple of months now but being new to the blogging world and its community, I hadn't ever imagined that someone would feel I was good enough to be nominated for it! It was a touching moment for me, especially as the nominations continued to surprisingly roll in, to the point where I couldn't keep track any longer!

I'd like to acknowledge and give a gigantic thank you to Stephanie, who is a very kind-hearted, talented writer who deserves all the recognition in the world. You can check out her blog by clicking here. I've been more than a little behind on writing this post since she nominated me ages ago, but I wanted it to be done right, with just as much love and care put into it as I would put into any of my other articles!



The rules of The Sunshine Award are as follows:
1. Thank blogger(s) who nominated you in the blog post and link back to their blog.
2. Answer the 11 questions the blogger asked you.
3. Nominate 11 new blogs to receive the award and write them 11 new questions.
4. List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post and/or in your blog



THE QUESTIONS I HAVE BEEN ASKED:
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1. WHEN DID YOUR INTEREST IN WRITING AND BLOGGING START? 
I've been interested in writing for the last several years. It's always something that has fascinated me and I've been dying to write stories since I was a little girl, before I could even read. But it wasn't until around last year that I discovered the blogging community on social media, and that was what really pulled me in and had me taking the idea of creating a blog for myself more seriously. 


2. NAME THE ONE PERSON YOU CAN RELY ON MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE
Without a shadow of a doubt, that would be my wonderful mother. We've literally been inseparable since the day I was born, she's the best friend I could have ever asked for and I'm so thankful to have her in my life. I've always been able to talk to her about anything and everything, the bond that we have is very important to me. 


3. WHAT COUNTRY WERE YOU BORN IN?
I was born and raised in the United States of America! Though I'll admit, there has always been a part of me that's wanted to live in Canada, it just seems like such a beautiful place! But, that of course, doesn't take anything away from my Country, which I appreciate very much!


4. WHERE DID YOU SHARE YOUR FIRST KISS? 
The answer to this question is terribly uninteresting, I had my first kiss at my house, it wasn't all that great, and there literally isn't anything more I could say than that. It's the utterly boring truth. ๐Ÿ˜‚


5. WHAT WAS THE FIRST EVER FILM YOU WATCHED AT THE CINEMA? 
Being the mid-nineties kid that I am, I absolutely adored Nickelodeon television shows, and I'm almost positive that the first movie I ever saw in the theater was "Doug's First Movie" which I would go onto watch over a million times on, VHS! According to my mother, we got about halfway through before I started to misbehave in the theater and we had to leave early...I'm really sorry about that, mom! 


6. WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST ALBUM THAT YOU PURCHASED?
During my pre-teen years, I was the biggest Jonas Brothers fan, though, who wasn't? So, if my memory serves me correct, I believe it was "The Jonas Brothers" their self-titled album, which their second album they had released, and was something I treasured during my pre-teen years. You wouldn't even believe how many times I played that over, and over, on my little CD player...I'm surprised it never broke.


7. WHAT TYPE OF FILM GENRE DO YOU PREFER? 
I've always been very honest about my love of television, so, I will say that I that I much prefer that to movies, so it's a little hard for me to figure out what my favorite genre would be. But I do love Marvel movies,  especially when Spider-Man is involved in them, so I think I'd have to say Fantasy!


8. AS A CHILD, WHO WAS YOUR BEST FRIEND? 
Growing up my best friend was the step-daughter of my Godfather, her name was Brittany and we spent a lot of time together as kids. Lots of sleepovers, birthday parties, and any time our dad's got together we would typically play around outside in our backyards.


9. DO YOU BELIEVE IN THE SUPERNATURAL? GHOSTS, ETC. 
While I've never experienced something supernatural, I do believe there are probably ghosts in this world. But I try not to think about it all that much because quite frankly, the idea kind of scares me. I'm definitely not someone who would go out looking for evidence of such a thing, I don't want any spirits trying to haunt me! ๐Ÿ˜…


10. IN 10 YEARS, WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE YOUR LIFE TO BE LIKE? 
As of right now, I'd love to be working as a freelance writer and full-time blogger, in addition to those goals, I would be totally disappointed in myself if I didn't have some sort of book published around that time. I know that's a lot to ask of myself, but I think ten years gives me plenty of time to give it all my very best shot. As you could probably tell, I dream of writing professionally on the daily.   


11. WHO IS YOUR FAVORITE AUTHOR?
I'm a big fan of Karen Kingsbury, and I enjoyed her novel "Unlocked" (The story of a high schooler bullied because of his autism) so much, that I read the whole thing cover to cover in roughly a day in a half. It's an incredible read and I highly recommend it to everyone. It takes you on a roller coaster ride of emotions, but it's just fantastic!

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THE ELEVEN QUESTIONS I HAVE FOR YOU:


1. What is your favorite television show of all time? 


2. What was your first word? 


3. Are you a dog person or a cat person?


4. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be? 


5. What is your middle name? 


6. What word do you find yourself using the most?


7. Do you prefer PC or Mac?


8. What is your favorite genre of music? 


9. If you got a new pet what would you name it? 


10. Are you a night owl or an early bird? 


11. What's one thing that gives you the creeps? 



I NOMINATE THESE AMAZINGLY TALENTED BLOGGERS:
1. Amanda: @happyarkansan 
2. Liz @2020balance
3. Travis @TravisBrainBlog 
4. Vicky @nepleutpas 
5. Bexa @hellobexa 
6. Jennifer @Elegant_Living_ 
7. Elysia @BecomingElysia 
8. Kiara @KiaraRoseWade1
9. Stephanie  @steph_vivienne 
10. Lily @LilySegui 
11. Jasmine @DoWhatYouLoveMa 


If any of you wonderful people have already been tagged by another blogger, feel free to send me the link to your sunshine award article on social media! I would love to read it.  

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I feel honored to have participated in the Sunshine Blogger Award, as it's a totally amazing way to show support for our fellow bloggers and give those who are working hard to grow their audiences more recognition. It's so nice to be apart of a community that contains such warm, loving, and supportive people!

As always, I thank you all for reading, now, go and enjoy the rest of your week!









Sunday, January 28, 2018

10 Things That Calm My Anxiety


A close friend of mine who also battles issues with anxiety, recently had asked me during a conversation we were having, "What do you do before, or during an anxiety attack to make it pass?" which got me thinking that it could be a good idea to share what calms me down with others, in hopes that they can try a few of these solutions, too!


























"My anxiety will always be apart of my life, but that doesn't mean I'll simply allow it to control me."


Ever since the publishing of my very first article on the topic of anxiety disorder and mental health back in early December of 2017, I have felt incredibly encouraged by my lovely readers to continue on speaking out about my own story and sharing my experiences in a more positive light. A light that could potentially help others who are dealing with similar situations as I am. 

I very much want to continue on with that, which is what has lead me to create this list of ten things that calm my anxiousness, because I think it's important that we all keep track of what relaxes us, or occupies our minds during those more difficult moments. These are some things that really work for me and have contributed to keeping my sanity intact. I hope you all will enjoy!  

disclaimer: I am most definitely not a professional by any means, nor do I claim to be. I'm just sharing with you a few things that help me feel better when anxiety and panic are trying desperately to make their presence known, and hopefully, you'll see one of these things mentioned as worth a try for yourself.

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1. WATCHING TELEVISION SHOWS
So, I'm a complete and total television junkie. I can't get enough of my favorite shows and with my anxiety issues, they practically mean everything to me. Throughout the majority of my twenty-one years of life, my shows have become one of my greatest, go-to distractions from a troubled mind.

Being an aspiring writer and author myself, there's nothing that makes me happier than the idea of storytelling. Which means that things such as books, comics, movies, television shows, anything that tells a story, and allows me to feel transported to another place entirely, fascinates me. But, overall, a well-written TV series will forever and always, come at first place in my heart.

Sitting down in the living room, relaxing with a drink and a snack while watching an hour-long drama with my dear family, has always done a world of good when it comes to keeping my mind clear of troubling thoughts.

When I'm beginning to feel slightly overwhelmed, following along closely with a good show takes the focus off of anything negative that may be bothering me, and prevents me from dwelling on it any further, allowing myself something much happier that I can turn my full attention to, watching television is something so simple that most definitely helps calm my anxiety and keep things from worsening.


2. JOURNALING MY ANXIOUS THOUGHTS
It's been a blessing to have my own private little escape from the depths of reality. My journal has become a place where I can come forward, release my frustrations and let go of those pesky little things that would normally cast a shadow over my day, without feeling any judgment.

Writing my thoughts down in my journal has not only been a healthy way for me to express my emotions and clear my head, but it's also something I've found to be incredibly relaxing. I love sitting in my room, turning on some fun, uplifting music and writing down my feelings. In fact, the combination of music and journaling is one of my most commonly used cures for anxiousness.

note: I have a separate article you may be interested in, called "Why You Should Keep A Journal In 2018" where I've gone through and made a whole entire list of reasons why I think journaling could be beneficial to you, click here to check it out! 


3. READING DAILY DEVOTIONAL BOOKS 
Throwing myself right into the word of The Lord first thing in the morning and just before I hop into my bed at night is something that has helped prevent my anxiety from coming on in a more severe manner altogether. I've been using a daily devotional called Jesus Calling by Sarah Young. It's a short and sweet little read which makes it easy to keep up with, but when taken seriously, the lessons inside always seem to have a great impact on my day. 

I've really enjoyed having little devotionals such as the one mentioned, laying around to read when I'm feeling low. But mostly, I've found myself using a devotional more as a preventional step. I've been reading it even when I'm feeling fine to grow closer to God, and in the process what I'm learning about has helped me to prepare and learn how to respond properly when life isn't going my way and I start to feel my anxiety kick in. Since I've started this, I've been making great progress when it comes to figuring out how to handle my emotions, and as a Christian, it's great to have a constant reminder that I'm not alone by any means, I always have God with me. 


4. TALKING TO ONES WHO UNDERSTAND 
It's not always easy, finding people who are willing to listen and understand how you're feeling, but when you do, hang onto them. I have a small group of friends who also know the struggle of dealing with anxiety and when I'm really feeling down and in desperate need of someone to talk to, they're always there for me. 

I tend to gravitate to a select group of people who face those similar issues and challenges that I do because it's hard to explain to those who don't know what it's like, why I'm feeling the way that I am. When I try to describe how I'm feeling to someone who doesn't fully understand anxiety, I can't shake the feeling that I'm being judged throughout the conversation, which makes things even worse. It helps to find others like you, that remind you that you're not the only one in the world who is dealing with these problems.

5. WRITING ARTICLES ON THE TOPIC
Now I'll be honest here, these last couple of days haven't been very kind to me at all, in fact, they've actually kind of been kicking my butt. While I'm thankfully, not dealing with too much anxiety at this particular moment, it has been affecting me throughout the week, so much that I recently posted this tweet; 



What you've read there is a prime example of my love for writing, and more specifically at this time, blogging. When I'm feeling beaten down, I have the urge to help keep others from feeling the same way that I do, which usually results in putting all of my effort into future posts that associate with the challenges that I'm facing, and that's how this article you're reading now, came to be. 

This has been a fantastic way for me to cope and in the process, I've also discovered that I really enjoy taking my own experiences, my own thoughts, and feelings and using them to create something that could potentially help others. I'm very passionate about the importance of mental health, and I'd just like to use what I've been through to remind people that they're not alone, and spread the message that there are always possible fixes, solutions, and ways to cope.   


6. ART JOURNALING
I know, another form of journaling, pretty shocking right? This is a fun little hobby of mine that I just recently have taken up. Back in December of last year, my lovely grandmother Beverly (Hi, Grandma! ๐Ÿ‘‹๐Ÿผ) asked me to send her a list of things I would like for Christmas, and within that list, I sent her a set of watercolors and a pack of three watercolor brush pens, which she generously purchased for me. Ever since I've been keeping a separate journal with art I've been working on. Typically inspirational bible quotes with a little bit of doodling. 

Once again, it's all about having things to focus on that can distract me from the negative vibes I've been feeling. I'm no artist, so I really need to pay attention to what I'm doing in order to not screw everything up. But it's also really relaxing to turn on some music or a podcast and just paint away. 


7. LISTENING TO MUSIC OR PODCASTS
With this one, staying far away from anything that seems to be more on the depressing side is key. Whether it be some fairly sad music or a podcast that's covering a more serious topic, I don't want it. I'm already upset, I'm not looking to feel even worse than I did before. I need something that can lift me right back up onto my feet and give me the boost of energy I need to fight off those negative emotions. 

People are usually pretty surprised to hear me say that my favorite kind of music is rap and hip-hop...Why? I'm not entirely sure, they're so much fun! I can be particular about it though, listening to a lot of the more old-school groups such as Run DMC, Salt N' Pepa, and my personal favorites Beastie Boys and Vanilla Ice. (You can say what you'd like, you know the Ice Man is awesome.) I play their music constantly because it's impossible for me to feel sad or upset while I'm hearing their lyrics. 

As for Podcasts, I'm down for just about anything, but my current favorite is one called "WrestleRamble" which is basically just that, a show where two guys ramble on about wrestling, which I confessed in one of my more recent articles, that I love! I've been obsessed with wrestling since I was a kid, and while it's not always that great, I still really enjoy hearing about it and that has really helped me when times with my anxiety are tough. 


8. PRAYING FOR RELIEF 
Asking God for relief during my anxiety is an absolute must for me. While I totally understand that not all of us are Christians, this works for me personally as I'm someone who strongly believes in God and the power of prayer. There's nothing more relaxing than sitting down in a quiet space and taking a moment out of my day to release all of my frustrations in a place where I'm free and safe from harsh judgment, instead, I'm comforted and encouraged to continue on and be thankful for the good things in life. 

9. HANGING OUT WITH MY FAMILY
Hanging out and spending some much-needed quality time with the family is one of the most simplistic things that can bring oh-so-much joy into my life. It's the little things that make me happy, sitting around together for a quiet meal, going out shopping, or even just staying at home playing one of our favorite board games, it's always those short moments that end up providing us with some of our greatest memories, and there's nothing that can snap me out of a pity party like the love from my family.


10. TAKING CARE OF MY PUPPER
I had the honor of bringing my beautiful little dog, Miss Posey Mae home for the first time back in August of 2015, and ever since then, the two of us have had an incredible bond, and that bond between us had luckily come at a time where I needed it the most. 

In the beginning of that same year, I had been experiencing the worst anxiety of my entire life, I was going through a pretty rough patch, one that seemed to be lasting a lifetime. But, my mom helped me through a road to recovery, and time began to heal my wounds. I was working hard to grow closer to God, change my outlook and progress in becoming a happier person with each day that went by...But I still needed a distraction from negative thoughts and energy in order to continue on successfully, and that's when I had the incredible privilege of meeting a little white dog, known only at the time by the nickname of Mop.  

















Both my mother and I tend to describe our now close to three-year-old Posey as a "little ray of sunshine" because she wakes up every morning bursting with energy and happiness, excited just to be alive and living yet another day, which is something we all could do a little more of ourselves. It's been a pleasure to wake up and take care of her every day and when I look at her darling little face, she just makes my heart happy.

She's the sweetest little creature in this entire world and has been one of the absolute biggest blessings in my life. Bringing her home has helped my anxiety improve in so many different ways. I mean, the Lord knows I still have my moments here and there, but between the support from my loving family, and the joy of being Posey's "Dog Mom" I haven't even come remotely close to spiraling out of control like I once did. 

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Those are just a few of the things that help me battle my anxiety disorder and nervousness. Throughout the years I've been trying my hardest to keep track of what helps me and I'll continue to do so. Anxiety will always be apart of my life, but that doesn't mean I'll simply allow it to control me.

I truly do hope that you were able to find at the very least, one of these things that were mentioned here helpful to you, and please remember, if you ever find you need someone to talk with, you can certainly reach out to me on social media because I'm always more than willing to talk or answer any questions you may have.

 With that being said, thank you for reading and have a wonderful start to your week!